Lightning. It leaves you awestruck yet terrified, it’s golden bolts crashing against the night sky. It’s followed shortly by rolling thunder that reverberates and echoes. It leaves me paralyzed in fear. My heart races and I am unable to sleep through the cacophony that ensues.
If a thunderstorm leaves you quaking under your blanket, you may be suffering from Astraphobia (pronounced [ass-trah-fo-bee-ah]). People who embody this phobia tend to also have Generalized Anxiety Disorder (ICD-10 Diagnosis code F41.1). Astraphobia is derived from the Greek word “Astrape” meaning lightning. If you’re like me and overwhelmed by this fear, read on!
I know, I know. You’re afraid of lightning because lightning is dangerous. I get it, it seems like an easy answer. But is there more to it? Read on.
It was June 6th 1999. I was 8 years old.
A huge storm had swept across the midwest. And while my family and I were tucked safely in our beds—visiting my grandparents in Minnesota—our home in Wisconsin was struck by lightning.
It struck our electrical box, snaked through all the wiring in the home, and within an hour our two-story dream home was fully engulfed in flames. It was truly a miracle that our entire family was out-of-state. We were all alive. When all was said and done, all that remained of our home was a clawfoot bathtub swaying on its pipes.
Though not physically present when our home burned down, a deep fear of thunder and lightning has raged in me since that day. I lay awake in fear when faced with troubling weather. My Mom was forced to sing me to sleep when storms passed through. I watch the weather religiously, making sure I am safe and sound at all times.
If you’re like me and have experienced a traumatic situation, it is truly hard to overcome. Perhaps you were struck by lightning, or know someone who passed away due to a strike. Maybe you were like me and lost a home. Whatever the scenario, know that there is hope. You don’t have to be weighed down by your fears.
Two things to note right off the bat:
Now that I have that disclaimer out of the way, this gal is clearly someone who doesn’t suffer from astraphobia. If I were sitting in that window, I would worry that I would get struck by lightning. Not only that, I’d be thinking about slipping and falling off the window-sill. Or spilling that hot coffee on myself trying to shift and not fall.
Even if we don’t have a specific reason to be afraid of lightning or thunderstorms, just knowing it could happen to you (though the chances are slim) can be terrifying. Storms are a normal part of life—part of nature—and nature is unpredictable. I believe a fear of the unknown is a biological imperative. We tend to be afraid of lightning because it is dangerous and our instinct should be to protect ourselves.
I have established that a healthy fear of lightning is natural and it is an instinct to protect ourselves. However, there comes a point where your fear turns to phobia. Here are some symptoms:
If you’re afraid of lightning, there are a few practical routes you can take to face your fear.
You know that I love to give some sage advice and words of wisdom for those moments when your fears are rational. Here are some general lightning safety tips and further resources:
Checking the weather eases my mind, when at home or traveling. Plus, it helps me prepare for my day! The Weather Channel and Accuweather both offer apps that I find useful. NOAA is my favorite website to utilize, and their radar can give you an accurate picture of where the storm is tracking. I know that I advocated not to obsess over the weather—but a healthy awareness is a good way to stay safe and be prepared if anything were to happen.
According to Sensacalm, weighted blankets “mimic the benefits of deep touch pressure therapy”. They have proven useful for children and adults who are on the Autism spectrum, have sensory processing disorders or—you guessed it—anxiety. The pressure releases Oxytocin in the brain, which helps calm the user. It’s like being enveloped in a big, reassuring hug. The blankets are created to be approximately 10% of your body weight, so it doesn’t feel like you are being smothered.
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These are two things that I do when I find myself anxious during a storm:
If you have experienced a traumatic situation like I have, getting the image and experiences out of your head are difficult. If you don’t have a loved one or family member to talk through your feelings with, a licensed therapist can truly help. There are typically good resources available in every region of the country. A quick google search will give you some options. You can also access therapy from home: check out online options for Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and other treatment modalities.